Rebuild connection and intimacy
Online couples therapy in Virginia, in person couples therapy in Roanoke, Virginia
Can you relate to this?
You love your partner, but you feel more like roommates or best friends than romantic partners.
You feel like your partner is a stranger, like there is so much distance between you that you’re afraid you’ll always feel separate and closed off. You have no idea how to come together, or if you even want to.
You can’t believe how irritable and impatient you have become, but so many things about your partner drive you crazy that it’s hard to control your reactions.
You can’t get on the same page about sex, and you are sick to death of having the same argument over and over.
Couples therapy, marriage counseling, relationship therapy… these terms all describe the service I offer in Roanoke, Virginia, or online from anywhere in Virginia.
Couples therapy can help you to…
Stop hurting each other and build a sense of safety
Communicate effectively without veering into conflict
Come together to repair and heal from past hurts
Move from blame to collaboration
Experience deeper connection and intimacy
Build a sex life that is mutually satisfying and pleasurable
Explore non-traditional sexual interests, such as kink and BDSM
Navigate ethical non-monogamy, such as open relationships or polyamory
Increase trust, understanding, and feeling seen by one another
You entered your relationship with a sense of optimism and possibility. It can be disillusioning when tension and conflict begin to overshadow the good times. Often, partners get into negative patterns of interaction that are difficult to break out of. I can teach you new ways to interact with one another. I offer helpful skills you can use to stop hurting each other and increase communication, understanding, respect, and affection.
Your sex life is an important part of your overall bond. Some partners have always struggled to find a happy sex life, and others are missing a compatibility and connection that has become damaged or weakened over time. I offer education, a fresh perspective, and specific recommendations on how to increase passion, intimacy, and fun.
Your relationship or marriage, and how you can make changes to improve it, is the focus of couples counseling. You will be most successful if you are willing to look at yourself and change behaviors that are not working for you. Certain actions feel good in the moment but do damage in the long-term. I can help you become less reactive and more strategic. Whether we meet in my office in Roanoke, Virginia, or online from the comfort and privacy of your own home, I can help you gain clarity and a path forward.
What if we aren’t sure we want to stay together?
This dilemma is common. Couples counseling can help you gain clarity about what you want for your future. Reducing conflict and increasing communication can get you to a calmer place where you are capable of making your best decisions. Sometimes one or both people decide they will be happier apart than together. Couples counseling can help to reduce conflict and improve communication during the process of ending a relationship.
Session frequency and length of treatment
Relationship therapy sessions last 75 minutes and usually take place weekly or every two weeks. Participants often experience reduced conflict and increased relationship satisfaction in approximately six months to one year if they are dedicated to the process and willing to practice new skills outside of sessions. We will talk regularly about how things are going and where our work is headed. We will plan to reduce session frequency as you approach fully achieving your goals.
Getting started
Step 1: Free consultation call
Schedule a video or phone call to tell me a little about why you are seeking relationship counseling. It is helpful if both members of the couple are present. I will listen to your concerns, answer your questions, and let you know whether I think I can help.
Step 2: First 75 minute couples therapy session
I will send you both a link to complete some paperwork before we meet. During our first session, we will talk about your history and your current goals. We will get a feel for one another and decide whether we’re a good fit to work together. If either of us decides that we’re not a good fit, I’m happy to offer other recommendations.
Step 3: One individual 50 minute session with each partner
I like to meet with each person alone to get your unique perspective on what is contributing to your relationship struggles and how couples therapy can be helpful.
Step 4: Ongoing 75 minute couples therapy sessions
We will schedule a standing weekly or every other week time slot for ongoing sessions. We can meet in person in Roanoke, Virginia, or have online couples counseling. We’ll check in regularly about progress toward your goals and wrap up when you feel satisfied that our work together is done.
